By Ambreen Fatima
(Pakdestiny) Controversial actor Qandeel Baloch, also social media celebrity, talks about her ‘abusive marriage’ and ‘unwanted son’ before entering in showbiz.
She said she wants to be someone in life and does not want to be imprisoned in the bond of marriage. “I want to lead azad (independent) life. Wants to do what my heart says,” she said
Speaking to Dawn, a man called Ashiq Hussain claims he married Qandeel in 2008 and that the couple had a son who now lives with him.
“She said, ‘mujhe apni azaad zindagi chahiye
Ashiq says the marriage ended in 2009 and that, contrary to Qandeel’s claims, he never physically abused her. According to him, Qandeel hoped to have an independent life and wanted a divorce: “She said, ‘mujhe apni azaad zindagi chahiye… She wanted to do whatever she wanted.”
I didn’t run away from home
Qandeel Baloch responded: “I didn’t run away from home. I’ve been dealing with the problem all day, telling everyone, attending their calls, telling the media. Media is not supporting me. They’re saying that I want to marry Imran Khan but I’m already married. This is wrong. What about my self-worth? My identity? I am a social media sensation, I am a fashion icon. I don’t know HOW many girls have felt support through my persona. I’m a girl power. So many girls tell me I’m a girl power, and yes, I am.
I was 17 years old when my parents forced an uneducated man on me. The abuse I have been through… It happens in places like this, in small villages, in Baloch families. This happened to me too.
Qandeel Baloch’s last interview on BBC Urdu
I never accepted him as my husband
“I never accepted him as my husband in my heart or mind,” says Qandeel of her husband. I said, ‘No, I don’t want to spend my life this way’. I was not made for this. It was my wish since I was a child to become something, to be able to stand on my own two feet, to do something for myself.
“But then they married me off when I was 17, 18. I was not happy and never accepted him as my husband. What do you think will happen in a forced marriage? With an uneducated man, an animal. What would I say, that I am already married? Why would I say it? I never accepted him as my husband in my heart or mind.
How I spent a year and a half with him, only I know
“How I spent a year and a half with him, only I know. And I only did it because of the child. Otherwise I wouldn’t have spent even one month with him. “The kind of torture he has inflicted on me, you can’t even imagine. Why? Because I was cute, I was young. He was older than me. He didn’t trust me. I don’t know why. I couldn’t connect with him on an intellectual level. Our ideas were very different. Then I had a child, so I sacrificed. I spent a year and a half with him. After the child, I told him I want to study. I want to complete my education, I want to get a job, I want to stand on my own two feet. But he never agreed.
My family never supported me
“My family never supported me. I would say I don’t want to live with him, but they didn’t support me. That man tried to throw acid on me. He said ‘I’ll burn your face because you’re so beautiful’. And today the media isn’t giving me any credit for speaking about empowerment of women, girl power.”
Qandeel claims she ran away from her husband and found support in Darul Aman. “Today I am capable of taking on the burden of an entire household. But no one gives me credit for that.- Pak Destiny